Tuesday, 28 April 2015

Spring Garden Plant Delights

The garden seems to be going crazy at the moment and needs some serious attention. I have discovered that my soil despite being heavy clay and at the moment resembling the Sahara dessert it can grow some seriously healthy weeds.



The mint seems to have come back to life and as strong as ever, it's now all over this border.



We have an wonderful selection of primroses and they are popping up all over the place, the variety of colour amazes me and I will be honest I have not planted one of them. But these delicate tucked away plants in the most odd places in the garden always makes me smile.









Our wonderful traditional rose the rambling rector I must admit I always want to call it the rampent rector maybe that's due to it being a beast and goes mental but I can not find the words to say how much I love it. This is a picture of last year.



Our pretty clematis has come into flower, it's over our back door and urgently needs some work to train better. It's a wonderful draw for the bees and the humm we hear by the back door is wonderful. They boys have gone from being scared to chatting to Mr Bumble bee.








Lastly some plants just about to bloom much to the bees delight





I am a little stressed by how already the garden is becoming out of control already and we are only just entering spring. I have not taken the photos of the mess this is another post that I will tackle soon along with the fact our garden is a spring colour garden and we need some summer flowers.



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Sunday, 26 April 2015

Meal Plan Monday 27th April 2015

We have another interesting week for cooking, as again Mr MC&W is working rather a long way from home leaving early and getting home late. The meals are mainly just myself and the boys. Saturday is OB birthday and Sunday Mr MC&W is flying out to the USA for a week.

Monday - Special Fried Rice I am going to try the boys on this one just keep it simple.

Tuesday - gnocchi with tomato sauce for the boys. I will have it with broccoli, mushrooms and a cream sauce from the wonderful Madhouse cookbook by Jo Pratt

Wednesday - I will be having roasted veggies with couscous and humus. The boys will have waffles, poached eggs and peas

Thursday - Massive salad for me with avocado, crispy bacon and a honey and mustard dressing. The boys will have Carbonara

Friday - Fish, chips and peas for us all

Saturday - OB birthday so it's family round and his favourite meal of pizza, chips, lots of cucumber, tomatoes, carrots and dips

Sunday - Just me and the boys something simple a Bologniase mince with jacket potatoes

Sunday, 19 April 2015

Meal Plan Monday 20th April 2105

We have had a hard couple of weeks since the sad passing of Mr MC&W father, our eating as you can imagine has been all over the place. But the meal plan is back and I have to juggle Mr MC&W working lots of strange hours.

Monday - It's just myself and the boys so we are having Jacket Potatoes with cheese and beans easy for me to pop in the oven when putting the boys to bed and simple to grab when I get downstairs.

Tuesday - Is the burial so there is no way we will want to cook so I must be honest with you I have gone for freezer everything. Steak Pies with Mash and Peas no real cooking. The boys we have got a ready made little dish meal

Wednesday - As it's little old me and the boys again, the boys will have a tomato risotto and I will have a mushroom risotto these are oven baked again allowing food I can just grab when I come downstairs.

Thursday - Tuna Pasta Bake for myself I will be using the slow cooker to keep the food warm so I do not have to cook once the boys are asleep. The boys will have Cheesy Pasta

Friday - I will have a spicy mince that will be cooked in the slow cooker served with pitta bread and Greek yogurt. The boys will have a Spag Bol using the same mince.

Saturday - Chicken burgers with crispy bacon and avocado for the adults and homemade pizza for the boys

Sunday - Pork medallions with Sage and Apple served with champ and greens. The boys will have a roast chicken breast, with plain mash and peas.

Monday, 13 April 2015

Dealing with Autism, a toddler and Death

You may have noticed we have been a little quiet in the MC&W household, tragically and very unexpectedly Mr MC&W father died in his sleep on Easter Sunday night. I can not put into words the whirlwind we have been living in for the last few days.

We as adults are coming to terms with the huge sense of loss, but how do you tell a 4 year old with autism, delayed speech and understanding and his three year old brother who both loved grandpa dearly that he would no longer be coming to see them.

Being the modern parents we are we turned to Google, this I must admit scared the wits out of us. We read advice stating be careful of talking about him being good so going to heaven as they may think I have been good I will die. Do not say he was ill as they may worry if they get ill they may also die. We ended up convinced we were somehow going to scare our children for life on giving them the news.

At this point common sense coupled with a glass or two of red wine prevailed, we have to be clear and honest with them so a plan was formed. We read that they may mirror our emotions and also that little ones with ASD will most probably not get any emotions at all.

So this is how we told our boys, this is just about us and how we dealt with this situation. It has worked for us with careful thinking about our children's personalities and may not necessarily be how other children should be told or how they will react.

We all cuddled up on the sofa the eldest had to be rather hugged and held, we told them we had some sad news, we have to talk about the emotions in very simple terms. That when granny and grandpa come to visit it would now just be granny, as grandpa had sadly died and that means we can not see him again, but he was now a star in the sky and very happy.  By this point tears were streaming down our cheeks and the youngest did mirror our emotions the eldest laughed and ran off.

But it's true children do not understand the concept of someone not coming back, they will ask all the time, when are granny and grandpa coming to see us and each time we have to calmly explain. Though when granny arrived our eldest did run to her with a smile and tell her grandpa was in the sky to which he got a massive cuddle as he had understood.

We have contacted pre school and school as it's necessary we are all saying the same thing to our boys, next is the funeral and that's a whole new set of worries.

We have learnt be honest and kind to our children, they then need a huge amount of reassurance. Especially as the routine of day to day life changes, hubby away for a day and night not knowing when he may come back home. We have witnessed our youngest behaviour not being great and yesterday he was sick and I know it was due to everything going on. Do not be scared of showing some emotion they need to see you sad and as I read do not expect to be a perfect parent, it's a tough time for everyone you will get somethings wrong xxx


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